My Life’s Purpose

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” – Mark Twain

What is your life’s purpose? Have you ever thought about it? Most people slog along day-to-day doing what has to be done, but they have no vision; no understanding of what God has called them to do. Some people would say they are “stuck in a rut.” I love what world-renowned, motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “A rut is merely a grave with both ends kicked out.” Have you ever asked yourself, “Why am I here?” This is a question that has plagued humankind for centuries.

The Apostle Paul was very clear in his purpose when he said to the elders at the church of Ephesus, “I consider my life worth nothing to me; my only aim is to finish the race and complete the task the Lord Jesus has given me—the task of testifying to the good news of God’s grace.” Ephesians 2:10 tells us there is a purpose for each life God created, including yours: “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.” Please stop and let that sink in. YOU were CREATED in CHRIST JESUS for GOOD WORKS, which GOD PREPARED BEFOREHAND. You have been preordained to do good work. You have a purpose that you were specially created for by God Himself. Own this verse, personalize it and say it out loud everyday: I am God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God Himself prepared beforehand so that I (Your full name- _________________ _______________) would walk in them.

As Christians, we know that we are here to glorify God. M. Craig Barnes in his book Sacred Thirst says, “Biblical faith has always made praising God its central goal, not because God is an egotist who needs lots of affirmation, but because the Bible is concerned that we enjoy the freedom that comes only from realizing it’s not about me. If it is always about God, then we are relieved from the burden of pretending to be gods and can instead return to our created responsibility of receiving the grace that only God can give us.”

According to Marriage & Family Therapist Pastor Larry McElvain in the Foreword of my book, certain things are characteristic of the faith mindset:

  1. It comes from a core belief, not about yourself; but about God.
  2. Your purpose must be tied to God’s purpose.
  3. It has an inclusive characteristic. Life distractions become another environment to live out your mindset.
  4. Success is not a product, but a process.
  5. Life circumstances do not determine success but are the environment of success.

With this in mind, I remind myself daily to keep my priorities in the right order. In order of priority, the purpose of MY life is…

1. To love and glorify God

2. To be a wife to my husband

3. To a mother to my children

4. To inspire people to SHINE

Knowing your life purpose and keeping it as your compass helps you maintain focus. Each day we must constantly make decisions. Knowing your life purpose makes it easier to make the right decisions. For example, when I was offered to be featured on a reality television show it sounded like great fun and very profitable. Taking it to prayer and asking God if it would fit within the life purposes He gave me, the answer was clear that although I could glorify God in the television show, the relationship and responsibilities to my husband and children would suffer. I turned the offer down.

Let your light SHINE
Matthew 5:16 states, “Let your light SHINE before men in such a way that they may see your good work, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.” If you have accepted Jesus Christ into your heart, then you should know that we are here to glorify God. Each of us is a member of the body with different gifts and assignments. You can do something that someone else cannot. You owe it to the people you influence, to the relationships God has given you, to be the best you that you can be. True success is living out God’s purpose for your life.

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.” Les Brown

Business Etiquette is Gender Neutral

The Handshake

Shake hands with everyone, men and women alike with a one handed hand shake. If a man uses a two handed handshake on a women with whom they do not have a close relationship, it is seen as condescending.

During a conversation with Tim Sanders, author of The Likeability Factor, I asked Tim about his thoughts on “The Handshake”. Tim advises to match the other person’s handshake and I absolutely agree. While everyone should strive for a firm handshake, if you are presented with a soft handshake, it would be overly aggressive to squeeze the other person’s hand.

Do I Stand?

In business, both men and women stand when being introduced.

What’s in a Name?

When introducing, always give the person’s full name.

Never give anyone a nickname. If a person’s name is Catherine, do not shorten it to Kate unless otherwise directed by the person.

Never use affectionate names for people at work such as “Honey,” “Babe,” “Doll” which can be construed as demeaning and could get you written up for sexual harassment.

Ms., Miss or Mrs.?

In spoken or written communication, address a woman as “Ms.” unless otherwise directed.

By Rank

In business people are introduced based on rank and not gender or age.

No Touchy

Avoid touching people in business. As relationships build, a touch on the shoulder or right forearm is allowed with permission. To be on the safe side men should avoid touching women other than the professional one handed handshake. Tim Sanders who is on a mission to create “lovecats” in the workplace is trying to break down the physical barrier. He will hug, with permission, clients affirming that he really does care about them beyond purely business.

Who Opens the Door?

Whoever gets there first! In business, whoever reaches the door first holds the door open for the next person, regardless of gender. If someone opens a door for you, however, you should not protest this act of politeness, not a demonstration of superiority.